4th Grade Girl to Become Boy

Am I wrong to automatically assume that these parents are the one with a problem? Sheesh, sounds like they are screwing up a little girl’s life because she is a tomboy.

METHUEN, Mass. — A fourth-grader who was attending a Massachusetts elementary school as a girl before February vacation has returned to school as a boy.

The parents of the 9-year-old child said the youngster was born with the body of a girl, but the brain of a boy.

They have asked that he be referred to and treated as a boy by teachers and other students, and school officials are accommodating the request. The parents have even changed the child’s name.

(Thanks Veronica Peach)


  1. Oh good. I only make $20k per year, but tomorrow I want to make a million dollars per second. Please advise everyone to make necessary changes so the way I perceive myself to be born be different than what actually is.

  2. No, these parents are amazing and wonderful. They have allowed their child to speak his internal truth. They have given him his life in ways even they cannot even begin to imagine.

    40 years ago I was a 5 year old little girl living in a Massachusetts town, and had those same feelings. I wouldn’t have put it exactly that way: I wouldn’t have said it had anything to do with my brain, for example. I just knew I was a boy. And, like you, I knew that was impossible.

    I lived for decades trying unsuccessfully to force my brain, and my body, to live out my life as the woman everyone else seemed to think I was. I believed what everyone told me: that it was easier to change my mind than to change my body. That turns out to be a terribly tragic and destructive myth. A few years ago as everything fell apart, it becamse only too clear that no amount of “trying” makes this condition go away.

    I “came out” to my siblings and parents, fearing that their reactions would be a lot like yours are… But I have been given the gift of a beautiful family: they have not only accepted my need to live as myself, they also agree that I am now more myself than I have ever been… Now that I am no longer trying to be something I’m not.

    I lost all of my childhood and a quarter of a century of my adult life to depression and inability to access my internal self. All of that fell away when I began hormonal transition. I cannot explain this, I just know it is true…

    And please don’t joke about salary increases or other access to so-called privilege after transition: most transgender people struggle all their lives against horrible stigma, loss of jobs and career due simply to outright discrimination, and formidable barriers to medical care.

    No one, and I mean no one, no one transitions to gain status or privilege. We transition because it is the only way to stay alive.

    My heart goes out to that child, and my gratitude goes out to those parents.

  3. Andre, you’re out of your damn mind. How on earth can you even THINK that this is the right thing to do with someone THIS young. This child, CHILD doesn’t have enough life experience to make any judgements about what to do at this stange in their VERY young life.

    While I empathize with your situation, you have to see that this is a tad overboard right now. This family really needs to start a discussion with professional help. I’ve known 2 people that have gone through a change, and they ended up more lost than when they started out. Yes, changed… FULL change. One even married a man and tried to life her life as a woman but never found what she was looking for….

  4. Yeah, this is really a little young for something like this. A 5-year old isn’t nearly mature enough, physically or mentally, to really know his/her gender role.

    What happens if, in a few months, he wants to go back to being a girl?

  5. Surely the surgeon would have required some sort of professional opinion to consent to the procedure before it was done, unless the surgeon was bonkers, too. Andre — you obviously haven’t tried Jesus yet.

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