Question of the Day

What’s the best advice you can give?

OH! OH! I’ve got a few.

1. Just because you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover doesn’t mean that 99% of the population doesn’t.

2. Never judge a person by how they act when they’re in a good mood. It’s easy to get along with just about anybody when they’re happy. It’s the bad times where you can get a peek at what a person is really like.

3. If somebody asks you if you’re a god you always say yes.

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  1. Learn how to listen. It is amazing how horrible most people are at this simple skill, if you want to be an effective communicator and have more meaningful conversations with people then shut the fuck up and listen once in a while.

  2. 1. When combing long hair, start with the ends first.
    2. Put the glass down before you pour a drink.
    3. Learn to type and learn keyboard shortcuts.
    4. Yes, listen.
    5. Fake it until you believe it.
    6. Walk when you can.
    7. People are too wrapped up in themselves to judge you half as much as you think they do.

  3. When you meet a new person, give respect by default. As time passes, allow the person to earn your continued respect, or to lose it.
    Take the time to learn how to do something the right way, even if it is as simple as loading the dishwasher properly. Related: if you don’t have the right tools for the job at hand, get them or find someone willing to lend them (the tool being either literal, or a metaphor).

      1. How important is the “allow them to lose your respect” part of that advice? I’ve noticed at work that I end up treating slackers respectfully long after others have given up on them, meaning there’s no incentive for them not to slack off when they work for me.

  4. Before nitpicking your spouse, ask yourself “Is this the hill I want to die on?” 99% of those fights never should have been started in the first place. Shut your mouth and relax. Generally, you will find that it was going to be a petty fight anyway.

  5. I live by the “assume your input is of little to no value to anyone, so vocalise it sparingly” mentality, and wish other people would too.

  6. Your #2 is completely untrue. When someone is in a bad mood you are observing their character when they are in a bad mood. You’re not gaining any special insight into the totality of a persons character. I don’t think a bad mood is any more telling than any other mood. Unless someone is always in a bad mood. By your advice, everyone is actually an asshole… that may be true, but I don’t think that was the jist of the advice.

    My advice: mammals that have returned to the water seem to be happier, go swimming once in a while…

    1. I think you’re wrong to suggest a bad mood is not telling – that’s when you see whether a person will take out their angst on someone else, for example. And whether they’ll show awareness of it if they do, which is a critical signifier of empathy. It doesn’t tell you everything, but its revealing of how far they think of others.

      And I’ve known plenty of really nasty shits who are great when they’re in a good mood.

    2. @Chris

      By your advice, everyone is actually an asshole…

      No, that’s your incorrect interpretation of what I said. Everybody is in a bad mood at some point. I’m asserting that people have more of a tendency to lose control and drop their mask a bit when they’re angry as opposed to when they’re jovial.

      Does nobody listen to Yoda?

  7. From the documentary film ‘I Like Killing Flies’:
    “The first duty of everybody in life is to realize that they’re a piece of shit. Selfish and self centered and not very good. You’re willing to sacrifice 20 thousand people in another country just so you can go to a Wings concert. You sacrifice the lives of a hundred thousand Chinese female babies just so you can rent this f’ing camera and do your stupid art project. No problem! You’re a piece of shit. Once you realize you’re a piece of shit it’s not so hard to take. Because then you don’t have this feeling that you’re a good person all the time. And let me tell you something, feeling that you’re a good person all the time is like having a brand new car with no scratches on it. It’s a real responsibility which is almost impossible to live up to. Being a piece of shit and then occasionally doing something that’s good and true is a much easier place to be. I think that’s really important and I always try to raise my kids to understand that they’re not that terrific. And that not being that terrific, that’s okay ’cause most people who say that they’re terrific, Bill Clinton, Cardinal Egan, anybody you want to talk about, They’re not so terrific. Martha Stewart, they’re not so beeping terrific either. And there’s nothing wrong with being not so terrific. In fact, it’s what the whole ballgame is about, being not so terrific… and accepting it. ”

    See the clip here

  8. Why, Miss Poppy Dixon, that was the piece of advice I needed today! Thank you! (That is a very sincere thank you – I really did need to hear that)

  9. If you’re thinking about getting married, imagine your potential spouse with the most crippling ailment you can and ask yourself if you could feed, bathe, and care for their every need if they got sick. If your answer is no, don’t marry them.

  10. Brush only the teeth you want to keep.
    Always wear a seatbelt in a moving vehicle.
    Think before you say something.
    Listen and you will learn.
    Always ask a question to someone telling you something (they think you are listening).
    Always complement a girl if you want to be on her good side.

  11. Do whatever makes you happy, as long as it doesn’t make others unhappy.
    Make sure that whatever effort/investment you put into something will be worth what you get out of it.
    Keep your friends close, and your enemies as far away as possible (really, who needs the drama?).

  12. I would modify Chris’s #1 to:

    Just because you shouldn’t judge a book by its cover doesn’t mean that you will be correct 80% of the times you do.

  13. Be nice. Lot of people walking around with a lot of grief inside.

    Keep a sense of humor and find the funny in everything.

    “Historic” is a euphemism for “high maintenance” when buying a house.

    Don’t be a stingy tipper.

    Never stop learning. Never stop challenging yourself.

    When your kids are small, give them the cheap cookies and keep a stash of good treats for yourself hidden in the back of a drawer (from my mother).

  14. Smile.
    Its amazing what you can get away with, with a smile and even if you don’t get away with it at least we all have a laugh.

  15. If you don’t design your own life plan, chances are you’ll fall into someone else’s plan. And guess what they have planned for you? Not much.
    – Jim Rohn, 1930 – 2009

  16. Check yourself before you wreck yourself. Really, it applies to everything.

    Oh yeah, and a bartender once told me, “You create your own hell.” I think of that once in a while when I catch myself in a horrible mood.

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